For men, marriage is a certain extent like the officialdom. What you know may not really matter. What matters is what you don’t know, because things you don’t know can determine your marriage and career destiny more than things you know.The people in the room are all from Haidong City, the capital of Jiangnan Province, and are several hundred kilometers away from Shanghai. The reason why they run so far is simply that they don’t want their acquaintances to see.