Chapter 76 Change

The dishes we had together at noon were very rich, but I was a little puzzled why my father-in-law was still in a bad mood, and he didn't have much appetite, and he was silent all the time

Maybe it's because I'm leaving

It seems that he is still far from coming out.

In this way, my father-in-law stayed here to continue taking a hot spring treatment

The driver picked me and my husband home

Along the way, I was unintentionally watching the scenery, lowered my head and pondered. My husband asked me why I was worried. I said nothing, maybe I was tired.

I've really thought a lot, I'm a little tired

From our father-in-law's depression before leaving, I vaguely felt that his father-in-law was not satisfied with our last lingering. He would not give up. Even if he was not forcing me, he was also forcing himself.

It seems that my refusal this time did not achieve the goal I expected, and it may make my father-in-law even more difficult to give up on me.

As the situation continues to change, my plan must also be adjusted in time. It is best to think of an effective method that does not harm both parties and can solve the problem at once.

It's difficult

But no matter what method, one thing is certain. Rejecting ambiguity cannot change. I will not be casual with my father-in-law anymore. I want to return to normal life.

At this time, I remembered a sentence from my friend, which also made me more determined that I should break up with my father-in-law and live a completely normal life

My friend has an average family condition. He has been renting a house for many years since he was married, but his attitude towards life is very positive and optimistic, and he is kind to others.

She cleans the house very clean and neatly every day and takes good care of the owner's things.

Not long ago, she paid for her own simple decoration and re-washed the wall.

I said: Is it necessary to do this for a rented house? If it is someone else, it would be great if it is not a disaster.

She said: The house is rented, but life is not

This sentence shocked me a lot

Yes, every moment of life is only once for us, and there is no reason to live casually at any time

Nietzsche said it well, every day that never dances is a failure to life

In life, we have to do something and not do anything

It is not easy for people to do something, because if you want to achieve something, you have to rely on talent, opportunities, persistent efforts, etc.

In comparison, sometimes it is more difficult to do something, because it requires restraining one's own desires.

There are always some things we don’t dare to do, but we don’t want to do and don’t want to do them.

We call it not

It is our moral bottom line

If the law is a referee, then morality should be a goalkeeper

It is precisely the most ordinary people who do not do anything to keep the bottom line of this society

In the following days, my father-in-law was recuperating alone there, and I didn’t know how the effect was. He called and said it was OK

Time passed quickly, 20 days passed in a blink of an eye, and my father-in-law's treatment time was also up, so my brother-in-law took him home

Seeing that my father-in-law still looked bad and was not in a good mood after he came back

I think it's necessary to have a long talk with my father-in-law

I also thought a lot during these twenty days.

Since I have decided to break off the ambition with my father-in-law, I will not change any more. What I think about in the future is how to refuse and how to deal with the aftermath

No more thoughts about looking back

The time in the tourist pool was not considered a compromise, it was a stopgap solution to make a better decision.

Rejection is a science, an art and wisdom. It is enough for us to study for a lifetime and not refuse, which will bother us and blindly refuse and easily cause harm.

I have thought that there may be three results that reject the ambiguity of my father-in-law. The first is to transfer the feelings of my father-in-law towards me into friendship and family, and then appreciate, respect and care for each other.

This is the best result and the most difficult one is

The second is to let the father-in-law accept the facts helplessly, let the incident return to the origin, and become passers-by and strange in his heart.

Although this is not perfect, it is the safest, effective, simple and feasible

The third type is that father-in-law turns from love to hate, and turn from evil to enemies

This is the worst result, and it is also the result I fear the most

The second result has actually basically achieved the effect before my father-in-law was hospitalized. Unfortunately, the facts have proved that I have thought it simple, and it is difficult for my father-in-law to accept this blow.

Immediately afterwards, my method of delaying rejection miscalculated again

Human feelings are very complicated and sometimes uncontrollable

History tells us that things can be arranged in detail, but it is often human emotions that change the direction of events.

So I have always believed that those who know others are wise, know themselves and understand human nature is the most profound knowledge. I am still far from it.

What I'm thinking about is not the present, but the future

Maybe because I was affected by my early divorce and some bad experiences when I was a child, I have a natural sense of crisis and often feel insecure.

Since my father-in-law was hospitalized, I always had an unknown premonition. My father-in-law's infatuation with me may be temporary. After he came out, if he was discouraged and lost his feelings for me, he was afraid that he would eventually turn into the worst third result, from love to hate, turning against each other into hatred.

In the end, I might even take my anger on my husband, and even everyone around me

My father-in-law has been ups and downs for most of his life, and has been in the mall for decades. He has always been indomitable, rarely has an opponent, and has never been ruthless in killing and never sluggish. His energy is absolutely not tolerant.

Although this possibility is very small, the consequences are very serious. If that happens, I have almost no chance of winning and I can't afford to gamble, so I have to be careful

My initial idea was not to offend my father-in-law too much, so that my father-in-law would not be too biased towards my brother-in-law's family.

But if the third result appears, it will go against my original idea and embark on a path of no return

Since the second result has not been achieved, I want to try my best to avoid the third result, there is nothing I can do about it, I have to work hard to achieve the first result

It's like a Pandora's box, I'm going to solve it before it is opened, the faster the better

So I found an opportunity to go while my father-in-law's house was gone.

My father-in-law was very happy to see me coming over. When we were sitting on the sofa, he seemed to be eager to try to do anything to me. I waved my hand and said: Don’t think about this kind of thing anymore. Last time my father said it was the last time. Why do you think about my father’s mental state is still not very good? Can’t you let it go for such a long time?

My father-in-law was very disappointed and sighed and said, "I understand the truth, life and death come from fate, wealth and honor are the same for people. It's yours that cannot be escaped, not yours, but I just can't control myself. Maybe you have regarded our relationship as a game, but I'm not going to lose anyone who is serious, I lose, but if I don't take it seriously, I won't even have the chance to lose.

I didn't want to get out of the way, so I said straight to the point: Dad, do you remember when you were at my house last time? We also sat on the sofa like this. That day, I asked me why I treated you like this. Later I thought, I really owe you an explanation. If Dad is not tired, would you like to listen to me to explain it well?

My father-in-law listened to what I said formally, and sat upright, ready to listen carefully