Chapter 77 Long Talk

So I told my father-in-law why I suddenly made a break? Dad thought it was very sudden. In fact, I have been struggling for a long time. Dad, you should know in your heart that even if we don’t consider ethics and morals, just from the perspective of human nature, it must be wrong to do this. Dad likes me. On the contrary, I am a little outrageous. I still can’t tell exactly why if we continue, sooner or later, we will lose control and be known that our behavior will not be tolerated by society. We will have no place to accommodate in society. We will be drowned in saliva. Dad’s lifetime reputation and all the reputation we have always cherished will be lost.

My father-in-law said: If you want, as long as we are happy, I can give up everything for you

I said: It's not that simple. There is nothing wrong with living the way you like, but the premise should be that you don't hurt others. We can't live just for ourselves. If we continue, it will not only be a tragedy between us, but also hurt the people we are closest to. They will also be unable to raise their heads for this. For me, I will be sorry for my husband, and my mother who gave birth to me and my father who raised me with great difficulty, and even all my other relatives, friends, classmates, colleagues and other friends.

Seeing that my father-in-law listened very seriously and thoughtfully, I continued:For you, the greater the ability, the greater the responsibility, the business model and company philosophy you have worked hard to create, as well as many followers, and many ordinary employees, you are not afraid of the butterfly effect caused by this crisis of trust and stock fluctuations. If there is any mistake, you don’t know how many people will affect the fate of your family members. This is especially true for your family members, especially your young grandson, who is so young, has no values ​​and outlook on life, and the road is still long. The invisible harm to his young mind will be immeasurable and may completely change him.What's even more terrifying about the direction of life is that if my husband knows it, the consequences will be even more unimaginable. Although he listens to you, he never gives in to me. I cannot guarantee that such a happy family will not suffer the tragedy of family destruction and death. We have no capital to take such risks! If we cannot get any blessing from anyone, we will also bear a huge psychological burden for it. How can we be happy? The most painful thing for a person is not to lose, but to be not happy after getting it. If there are endless torture and painful disasters, wouldn't it be even more worth the loss.

My father-in-law pondered for a long time, seemed to have some insight, and then nodded slowly and said: What you said makes sense. I have never thought so much before. It was me who was wrong. But I still want to say, I only care about your thoughts and will not force you. As long as you are willing, I am willing to take the blame for the world. For you, I am not afraid of being a villain.

I hurriedly said: No, there are gods who raise their heads three feet high, people are doing things and God is watching

My father-in-law said: I never believe in any ghosts

I said: I mean that people should have a sense of awe. It is a belief in life and an attitude towards life. What is your belief in dad?

My father-in-law thought about it, but he stopped talking a few times, and then said, "Forget it, I won't say it anymore." Maybe his beliefs are just inconsistent with what we do."

I saw my father-in-law speechless for a long time, and then continued: I understand my feelings for me very well, and I know that you are good to me, but being together is not just about companionship, it should be about understanding each other. It should not be about letting go. It should be about letting go. Love is not possession, but about fulfilling. I never thought of lying to you, and I would rather choose to refuse. Because deception is much more harmful than rejection. There is a saying that goes, I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I can be in front of you. To be honest, I don’t have that kind of true feelings for dad. I’m not worthy of you to treat me like this. I’m sorry dad. I really can’t give you love and feelings. We can’t indulge in compulsiveness, we can’t go to extremes. We are obsessed with emotions, not be enterprising, and decadent. It’s even more undesirable to be able to take on men who can let go. In the eyes of women, we are the strong ones.

My father-in-law smiled and said, "I admire you. Listening to your words is better than reading for ten years. I actually made you speechless. It seems that most of my life has been in vain."

I also smiled and said that I just thought a little too much, and I don’t know if what I said is right. It will be not easy to do it. If you can understand me, I won’t force me once in the end. Please agree to my request and don’t hurt or torture yourself anymore. OK?

My father-in-law said: OK, I promise you, what can I do if I don’t?

I said: There is a way, I wonder if you are willing to fulfill it?

My father-in-law asked: What is it?

I said: I can feel that you are sincerely good to me. Your concern and love for me have always made me feel warm when I was frustrated. I feel that you are no different from my father. In my heart, I have long regarded you as my biological father. If you are willing to give me such a chance, I am really willing to change my role. I don’t know if you are willing to treat me as your daughter?

My father-in-law was stunned and said: Isn’t that true all along?

I said: I am not referring to the relationship between father-in-law and daughter-in-law, but the real relationship between father and daughter.

My father-in-law said: What is the difference?

I said: The most important difference is that I will treat you like my biological father in the future, and I will not have so many concerns when speaking and doing things. I am grateful and sincerely give, and I will not ask for anything in return. The idea of ​​ambiguous relationship between men and women is a pure family affection. I will be simpler than before. I will be filial to you from the bottom of my heart. I respect you and love you. Even if my husband and I divorce you one day, it will not affect our father-daughter relationship at all.

My father-in-law thought about it and said happily: OK, I often feel regretful because I don’t have a daughter. I know that what you promised will definitely be able to have a caring and excellent daughter like you. It is a great blessing for me. What else do you want me to hope that we can become a father and daughter who make each other proud.

I smiled and said: I will definitely work hard

During the Dragon Boat Festival, my husband and I went to see my father-in-law again. My father-in-law just returned from fishing with someone and his complexion has obviously improved.

I was very happy to see us. I asked my father-in-law about his physical condition. Although he still insisted on taking antihypertensive drugs, he has not been dizzy and headache recently. My father-in-law said that he would continue to work in the company after the holidays and didn't want to retire so early.

He also joked with me quietly: Old daughter, my sn in law has been doing well to you recently

During dinner, the family was eating dumplings and the newly caught wild crucian carp of their father-in-law. When they saw their father-in-law and her husband talking excitedly, they burst into laughter from time to time.

I have a feeling that I am glad that our lives are back on track and happiness is quietly coming to me

Time may not prove many things, but it will definitely allow us to see through many things

God gives us a lot of temptations, but we don't get it easily

There are too many helplessness in life

Because it is not easy, we should grasp it more

There are actually very few things that people can really grasp. No matter how big the big thing today is, it will be a small thing tomorrow; no matter how big the big thing this year is, it will be a story next year; no matter how big the big thing this life is, it will be a legend in the next life

At most we are just people with stories

When you mature, you just face everything with a smile

Waterfalls are an inevitable choice for rivers when there is no way to go, and counterattacks are people who are unwilling to get rid of them when they are in trouble.

The scenery is the end of the water, and the rebirth of the person when he reaches the end of the water

The affair with my father-in-law for more than two years has basically ended. Through this process, I have realized a lot.

It's not glorious, but I can never forget it, and I don't want to forget it

Whether it is a country, a nation, or a person, the more you think about it, the more you should not forget the humiliation and mistakes of the past.

Only by walking a detour can you be sure of what you wanted most. People have no choice but to achieve nothing.

Only by keeping your original intention in mind can you achieve the end

A Zen master in the Song Dynasty proposed the three realms of meditation.

The first level is: seeing the mountains as mountains, seeing the water as water

The second level is: looking at mountains is not mountains, looking at water is not water

The third level is: looking at the mountains or mountains, looking at the water or water

This is not only suitable for meditation, but also for many aspects, from small study and work to large life insights

At the beginning of life, I saw everything fresh, so I saw the mountains as the mountains, and the water as the water

As we grow older, we find that the world is very complex, with many false and ugly things, and we begin to doubt, beware, complain, etc.

So looking at mountains is not mountains, looking at water is not water

Most people will stop at this second level throughout their lives

But a few people will finally reach the third level through self-cultivation

The enlightenment suddenly opens, return to nature, the clouds are quiet, everything is open to you, and everything is not caring about, it is difficult to be affected by external things again

People are people, there is no need to be a person deliberately; world is world, there is no need to deal with things carefully

So if you look at the mountains or the mountains, you will see the water or the water.

But it is a world of difference from the first level of realm.

Thus, I know what I really want to give up and pursue

This third level is the realm of life that I have not yet reached and I want to work hard to achieve.

What is the greatest meaning of life?

Some people say that the meaning of life is actually meaningless, I don't know if it's right

But I think the process of exploring the meaning of life is very meaningful

I think, from a broad perspective, the greatest significance of life should be continuation, creation and inheritance

We are all living relay people

So when we come to this world, we must fulfill our mission

No matter whether our abilities are strong or weak, our mission is big or small

From a young perspective, the greatest meaning of life is to live your own wonderful life and spend your life the way you like

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