Chapter 11 Rational guidance and discussion

While Mengyao and I were asking questions, she paused the question and smiled playfully while aiming at me with a playful look. In her eyes, I found the answer

In fact, Mengyao's intentions are two aspects. On the one hand, he used the example of early marriage between dogs and lotus to stimulate and suggest me, and on the other hand, he inspired and guided me, which reminded me of Xiao Yuer.

What you mean is that you are worried that you can't do Grandma Zheng's job, which will lead to Yu'er dropping out of school like everyone else, right?

Meng Yao took back the gaze and responded to it as if he had let go: Alas... I was finally smarter

Mengyao's guidance also allowed me to see her rational side. She looked at the problems and combined with reality. We can help Yu'er solve the costs of primary school. She can also enjoy tuition and book fee reduction in the nine-year compulsory education stage.

So where does the money for food, accommodation, transportation, clothing and other aspects from junior high school to college come from? It is another realistic question

In this small mountain village where early marriage and early childbirth are very serious, like Grandma Zheng’s family, especially Zheng Yuer is an adult if she doesn’t take two or three years. If she doesn’t continue to study, there may only be two results. One is working outside and the other is marrying a woman early.

To be honest, in the analysis of this matter, I thought it was too simple and did not look at the problem based on reality. However, the inability to see the essence of the problem clearly means that I am still young and not mature enough.

The topics I discussed with Mengyao mainly revolve around Zheng Yu'er. We are not close to the little girl, and even my understanding of Xiaoyu'er is only about Mengyao's words. I can't explain why we are so concerned and worried about her affairs. I feel that there is an invisible power that inspires and guides us little by little.

The encounter between people in this life is actually a kind of fate. The fate between me and Mengyao and Xiaoyuer is like God has arranged it long ago. That feeling made me unable to explain it for a while.

Perhaps it was because of our compassion for Xiao Yu'er, perhaps it was because we really didn't want to see her repeat the mistakes of others, or perhaps it was because of the invisible power. In short, for Xiao Yu'er, we thought a lot and talked a lot, and we were even willing to help her unconditionally, and we were willing to try to change the little girl's life trajectory in our way.

Mengyao then put forward her own ideas, which also made me understand her good intentions.

I pondered for a while, and first she said what I thought was in my heart

Mengyao, since we have said so much, I can feel that you, like me, want to help them. Do you think this is good? First, we do Grandma Tongzheng's job and convince her to put down her mental burden, and then solve the problem of Xiaoyuer's school expenses. If everything goes well, maybe we can change Xiaoyuer's destiny.

Mengyao listened to my thoughts and thought for a while and told me

Tell me what you think

I have some ideas. First of all, everything we have to do must be based on persuading Grandma Zheng. Secondly, it is to help Xiao Yuer apply for subsidies for students in need and connect with the Hope Project. If Xiao Yuer can get into university, she still has the opportunity to get a scholarship from the school. In this way, there should be no problem with the tuition fees after the compulsory education stage. As for living expenses at each stage, I will bear the tuition and miscellaneous expenses. Do you think this is feasible?

Well, your idea is quite comprehensive, but Tong Xin, you must think about it. Once we convince Grandma Zheng, your survival pressure will be very high next time

Helping others is the foundation of happiness. Besides, I don’t smoke and don’t drink well. I don’t have a girlfriend for the time being. Apart from buying some essential items for my own life, there is no cost. It should be no big problem to support a little girl.

I answered disapprovingly

Mengyao glanced at me and said to me: Okay, Tong Xin, since we have talked so much, let me tell you about my thoughts and some worries. Actually, I fully agree with your thoughts, and I even want to bear them with them. But, do you know? I have been thinking about another question in my mind these days. I can't make a decision because I still have some worries. First of all, Yu'er has entered puberty, so can she continue to study seriously like what I see now? This is an unknown second. You know that girls are different from boys, especially young girls in adolescence. If they can't withstand the temptation in society and go astray, then, we are the ones who are most ashamed of the old lady, which is what I worry about the most.

Mengyao's words made me dumbfounded. It seemed that she had been concerned about Xiao Yu'er's affairs for a long time, and had thought about it for not a day or two, but she had always been worried. What I really didn't expect was that she would think of Yu'er's problems so far.

Alas... It seems that women's meticulous thinking is really worth learning and thinking about by those of me, such as meticulous men.

Her views and ideas are not superficial, but will only dig deep into the most critical parts of the problem. She looks at problems not only from her own perspective, but is good at changing and guessing different roles.

What does this mean?

It means she has really thought about it seriously, which means she can use rational thinking and change different angles to analyze problems.

Although Mengyao has a long-term view, the root of all problems depends on the development of the things themselves

Although her worries and concerns are not wrong, no one has the ability to predict the future. Only time and practice can verify whether her views and theories are correct.

Mengyao's worries and concerns made me think a lot, and also made me think of myself.

Although I have never seen Yu'er with my own eyes, for some reason, I always feel that Yu'er has a close relationship with me.

There was a voice deep in my heart that told me that she would never disappoint Mengyao and me.

I pondered for a while, and reorganized the language and said to Mengyao

Mengyao, maybe you are right, but I think you may want to

So do you have any opinions or suggestions on my ideas? Mengyao asked back

There is no opinion, there are some suggestions. I am not refuting some of your ideas, but just analyzing your worries and concerns based on the facts.

Then you say, I want to hear what you think, too

I thought about it and continued: Mengyao, to say what I mean, your worries and concerns are not wrong. I support you and appreciate your rationality more. But the key to the problem is that none of us can predict what the future will look like. If everything goes in a good direction, I think our worries and concerns are redundant today

I glanced at Mengyao who was thinking and continued to express my point of view

Mengyao, the development of everything depends on the essence. No one can see clearly what kind of child Yu'er is for the time being, and we cannot predict her future. However, I personally think that children who grow up in difficult family environments are generally very inspiring and sensible. Yu'er has endured and experienced many things that are not consistent with her age. So I think she should know how to keep herself clean, and should know what she needs most and where the direction she needs to work hard. As long as she understands, we don't have to worry too much. As long as we do the right guidance and always pay attention to her growth, her life trajectory will not be deviated. Are you right?

Meng Yao nodded slightly, as if she agreed with my point of view, I continued

Let's take me as an example

Mengyao hurriedly interrupted: Wait, why should you use it as an example?

Nothing, I just want to prove something through my growth process. If you don't like to listen, then forget it

Mengyao stared at my face with big beautiful eyes in confusion. She couldn't guess what medicine I sold in the gourd for the time being

But she did not object to me and said, but nodded again to signal me to continue

And told me very seriously, Tong Xin, I want to listen

I sorted out my thoughts and thought for a while and said: Mengyao, although we come from the same university and come to this poor and backward mountain village with the same work tasks, our growth experience is completely different. You are a child who grew up in a honeypot in the city. He has never experienced any storms since childhood. All he has accompanied you is happiness and sweet life. To be honest, I envy you children who grew up carefree in the city... Maybe you can't understand my intention yet, but I want to tell you that the birth environment of a person determines a person's fate. In fact, there are some things I have never mentioned to you, because I have had similar experiences like Yu'er, all because of family difficulties and have no choice but to leave school at home. You may not be able to understand the taste of not being able to go to school in this life.